🤗Moments🤔

 

🤗Moments🤔

Welcome back Gen-X-Ers!

Do you ever feel like your life is a camera roll, flicking through pictures of events? 

We tend to focus on the big events or moments in our lives, and sometimes remember them in slow motion. Do you judge and then file them in your head as being good or bad?

Our memories are sifted away in the relevant box, from fun, exciting, best time ever to horrendous, shameful, embarrassing and so on. Moments may be refiled later in life, when on reflection we move them from one box to another, this results in being either very therapeutic or  potentially more damaging. Remember to treat yourself with care, when you shake up old memories.

We all hold close to our hearts our own core values, this defines us. I keep my life, light-hearted, positive, fun, calm and relaxed so when a moment of my life does not fit into my chosen way of living it can present itself as a struggle.

Just last week, I had a challenging meeting to attend in an official office, and knowing its content I pre-judged a potentially emotionally sad situation. 

In the past when I was "very busy" (having read my other blogs you know the drill: the four children, co-running a business, being a wife and actually not having a moment for me, kind of time!) I would have entered this situation with no pre-planning and no preparation to centre and ground myself. However, now I have the luxury of time on my side I can enter my head space and give myself a moment to stop, breathe, gain self-control, self-respect and be calm. 

For this particular situation, it was essential to leave my heart at home and the consider the meeting as purely a transaction. I removed all emotion from the event and can assure you how much easier this experience was for men due to my pre planning. 

Knowing what I know now, I felt compelled to share this with you Gen-x-ers 😁.

This particular moment highlighted, if we know a potentially challenging situation will arise, by creating a space to premeditate and reflect we can present ourselves in the way we would prefer to be seen. Of course, it's not only about looks is it! The most important part is protecting our hearts and managing our precious emotional selves.

It also raised my awareness that when we see others in a situation it is easy to judge them, we may feel that they "should" be reacting in a certain way, but the fact they are not we could judge it that they lack emotion, however, remember it may be that they have purely gained self-control.

Next time when you are aware you have a pending challenging moment, remind yourself it is possible to remain composed, you have the power to present yourself in that manner. Give yourself plenty of time in the hours, days and weeks leading up to "the moment" to plan your own strategy. Essentially lowering your emotions such as fear, and sadness, therefore you can redirect your "moment" to be a nicer experiance.

I thank you once again for reading and I hope this helps you in future challenging situations, as we all have them from time to time. 

Please feel free to share this blog, with your act of kindness if it helps just one person through a challenging situation, wouldn't that be amazing. 

As always ....Catch Up Soon 💜X💜