🤔Purpose - Have you Found Yours?😋

 

🤔Purpose - Have you Found Yours?😋

Hello Gen-x-ers 💜, 

Yes, it's been a while, hours turn into days, days into weeks and weeks into months. Time flies, either we are busy working or we are simply having fun!😃

I do love to put time into these blogs however I am working on two other writing projects and they have deadlines so it's all about prioritising! Today I am taking some time out, to give my head a rest and put a few words down here for you all to read.

Purpose - I have to say, I really struggled with this particular word. For many years I have dedicated myself to my family and work, having huge demands from both (yes I chose and allowed this!) I did not give myself any time to discover myself or my purpose. I would sneak in the odd yoga class, but that was about it. 

Over the past few years, my situation has changed dramatically and swung from one extreme to another, I am the kind of person who likes things running smoothly and aims for middle ground, extremes I have recognised stress me out. Therefore I tend to try and avoid them. 

Having spent 20 years prioritising my family I had always felt this was my main purpose, this worked very well, I loved investing time and energy into them, I was wanted, happy, hardworking and felt a true sense of my life's purpose. This was perfect for 20 years, however, situations change, and children grow up, so I was left thinking, "Now What?"

I put myself under immense pressure and have been endlessly looking for it's replacement. It felt like I had lost an important key, which I needed to open the next door to move forward and discover the answer. The more I looked the more frustrating I became as I could not find a reply to "What is my Purpose?"

From experience, looking for answers in this way was not the best approach. I realised you have to dig deep and listen to your heart's desires. In order to reflect I had to stop, take time do nothing, remove distractions and consider. I asked myself questions like - if money and time were no object and I had no obligations and responsibilities ....what would I choose to do? What is my spark, what makes me feel fulfilled, What am I doing when I lose all track of time?

So rather than searching and putting huge pressure on myself, it was about giving myself permission to take time out and just feel.......

Are you looking for your true purpose? If so what would you answer to the above questions?

To give myself half a chance, I had to get away and travel to escape from my normal routine and commitments and find this overdue, valuable time for thinking. A change of scene helped me focus on myself, it was much easier to have no distractions and give myself the permission to stop and reflect. There was nowhere I needed to be, nothing to do, and a much easier space where I would not feel guilty to receive this time out!

Once you have taken time to self-discover, it's time for action! Look for opportunities, talk to people who can help you grow, build your purpose into your weekly schedule, plan and block time in your calendar.  Once you have committed to putting time aside, if someone asks you to do something, make this a non-negotiable, similar to if you had a dentist appointment. Putting yourself first here is not selfish, it's self-respecting.

I have discovered that your purpose is not necessarily something you will always do, times change and it's good to be open to change. Writing is my current purpose, it is not something I have ever put much energy into. It has been there under the surface, waiting for me to find it. It's snuck into my life and schedule and feels like the right thing to do. When I write I truly lose track of time and look forward to getting stuck in. From writing my Morning Pages, to editing a translation for a book, to this blog and finally making progress with my own book (more news on that when I have completed it!) I am happily lost in time and writing most days, this is my happy place, so I thank you for reading it, and making it worthwhile.

It seems that I have found pleasure in writing and I hope my work will inspire you and others to discover more about themselves.

Enjoy your self-discovery, you never know what answers you will find, or what's around the corner. 

 Catch up soon X💜X